Posts tagged confusion
Cognitive Dissonance Makes you Feel Crazy
Cognitive Dissonance Makes you Feel Crazy

Cognitive dissonance feels like living with two conflicting realities that switch back and forth. “He’s an abuser, no he’s not, he’s just hurt and means well,” “I’m right about this being abuse, no I’m not,” “Is it me or is it him?” “He’s so nice, why did I doubt him?” “I should leave, no I should stay,” Even, “I trust God, no I don’t.”

Cognitive Dissonance is often described as “reality switching” where conflicting thoughts and contradictory realities pop up but you’re plagued with such intense self-doubt, confusion, and fog from the abuse that you’re not able resolve anything. Remember, confusion is a SYMPTOM of covert abuse!

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All About Trauma Bonds
All About Trauma Bonds

“I miss him so much,” “I can’t go on without him,” “I can’t leave - it hurts too much to be apart.” These are all signs of a trauma bond, also called a betrayal bond.

Both trauma bonds and cognitive dissonance can be part of what keeps you or kept you trapped in an abusive marriage, or obsessing about it after you leave, and both are incredibly painful to deal with.

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Sanity Roadmap- The Eight Stages to Getting Free and Healing from Covert Abuse
Sanity Roadmap- The Eight Stages to Getting Free and Healing from Covert Abuse

Your world has been spinning around in confusion- this roadmap of the stages of healing you’ll go through coming out of emotional and psychological abuse can give you some solid ground to walk on. What stage are you in?

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boundaries, recovery, trauma, betrayalHelena Knowltonrecovery, trauma, narcissist, betrayal, confusion, gaslighting, covert abuse, hidden abuse, blame-shifting, guilt-tripping, healing, Sanity Roadmap, emotional abuse Comments