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How Divorce Made My Life Better – Survivor Wisdom Series, Part Nine
How Divorce Made My Life Better – Survivor Wisdom Series, Part Nine

As Christian survivors of emotional and psychological abuse, when we realize that we must divorce our abusers because of their unwillingness to treat us with love like a decent human being should, we face the shattering of our lives as we know them and hoped they would be.

But when we go through a merciful, life-saving divorce, God supports our divorce and is there with us as we rebuild our lives.

I asked the abuse survivors in my Confusion to Clarity Facebook Community to share the benefits they’ve experienced because of their necessary divorce. Here are the ways they feel their life is better.

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Stage SixHelena Knowltondivorce, healing, spiritual abuse Comments
How God Guided Me to Divorce – Survivor Wisdom Series, Part Eight
How God Guided Me to Divorce – Survivor Wisdom Series, Part Eight

I recently asked the beautiful survivors in my Confusion to Clarity FB Community “How did you come to know it was okay to divorce as a Christian?” “What helped you make the decision to divorce?”

I was surprised that all the answers I got were about how God guided them to divorce. Yes, God supports divorcing an abuser, and, yes, it’s Biblical to do so no matter what you’re being told by your pastor, elders, or others.

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Stage SixHelena Knowltonmarriage, divorce, spiritual abuse Comments
Why I Stayed – Survivor Wisdom Series, Part Six
Why I Stayed – Survivor Wisdom Series, Part Six

Some of us get blamed for leaving our marriage, and some of us get blamed for staying so long “if it was that bad.” And most of us get blamed for both. We can’t win.

Instead of blaming the victim/survivor, we should be honoring the strength of all the women who have left against all odds, and the strength of those who are forced to stay until they can find a way out.

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Stage SixHelena Knowltonmarriage, covert abuse, Christian, Why I Stayed Comments