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Why Did You Even Bother to Wrap That? Abusers and Their Gifts

I was laughing recently with some other survivor of emotional and psychological spousal abuse over the stupid, weird, and crappy gifts we got from our abusers. Let’s take a look at a sampling of abuser’s actual gifts so you can see that you are not alone and that his gifts aren’t a reflection of you at all- they are all about who he is.

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8 Burning Questions When You Realize You're Being Covertly Abused

How Do I Accept That My Worst Nightmare Is True? What Do I Do Now? My Life Is Turned Upside Down- How Do I Deal With This? How Can I Fix Things? How Do I Set Boundaries With A Covert Abuser? Why Did This Happen To Me? Did I Do Anything Right? What Does Healthy Look Like?

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What is Covert Psychological and Emotional Abuse?

You know something is wrong in your marriage and you can’t explain it. You’ve read examples and definitions of emotional abuse and they haven’t described your experience. You wonder “Is it me or is it him?” If you’re confused and feel like you’re on a merry-go-round of emotional pain, frustration and self-doubt, it may be from the mind games, gaslighting and manipulation of covert psychological and emotional abuse.

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